Your Stance Towards Failure
KEY TAKE AWAY
Disliking failure is greater than fearing failure (We encourage athletes to dislike failure, because they want to succeed so bad. However, fearing failure is not the same thing. Fearing failure brings unwanted anxiety and negatively affects your game. This whole section focuses on eliminating this fear.
Be the best self-coach you can be
ACTION PLAN
A trick for being a better internal coach for yourself is by talking to yourself as if you were speaking to your best friend – this idea is based on the fact people are more compassionate when speaking to others than compared to themselves
Ethan Kross, the author of the book Chatter, highlights the importance of using your own name and also talking in the 2nd or 3rd person when engaging in inner dialogue, a term he coined “distanced self-talk.” Rather than saying “I,” you will use the pronouns “you” (2nd-person) or “he/she” (3rd-person)
Next time you’re talking to yourself in your head try using the 3rd-person perspective and your name
For instance rather than saying “I need to adjust my positioning on that play,” you would say “Jason needs to adjust his positioning on that play”
